Hello!
Most of the people I work with are used to being the one others rely on.
You might be the person who keeps things steady, reads the room, or tries to prevent conflict before it starts. On the outside, that can look like you have things handled. Internally, it often comes with overthinking, second-guessing, and a constant sense of pressure to get things right.
Over time, that way of functioning can become exhausting. You may start to feel disconnected from yourself, unsure of your reactions, or caught in patterns that don’t seem to change, especially in relationships.
My work focuses on helping you understand those patterns at their root so you’re not just managing them, but actually shifting how you relate to them.
My Story
Like many of the people I work with, I’m familiar with the constant “what ifs.”
The kind of thoughts that don’t seem to settle. Questioning whether you said the wrong thing, wondering if you’re doing enough, or feeling like you should have handled something differently. That underlying sense of not quite being enough can be exhausting, even when things look stable on the outside.
Over time, I began to understand that these patterns weren’t random. They were shaped by earlier experiences and ways of adapting that once made sense, but no longer felt sustainable.
Therapy played an important role in helping me slow those patterns down. It gave me a way to better understand my own reactions, feel more present in my day-to-day life, and build a stronger sense of security in my relationships.
That experience continues to inform how I show up in this work. I don’t see these patterns as something to eliminate, but something to understand so they no longer have to run the show.
Outside of the therapy room, you can usually find me hiking, camping, or working through a puzzle. Anything that allows for a bit more presence and a slower pace.
What I Mean by Relational Trauma
Relational trauma doesn’t always come from one major event. More often, it develops through repeated experiences like feeling misunderstood, dismissed, criticized, or responsible for others in ways that weren’t yours to carry.
These experiences can shape how you relate to yourself and others:
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Feeling responsible for other people’s emotions
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Difficulty setting boundaries without guilt
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Overanalyzing interactions or assuming you did something wrong
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Struggling to trust your own thoughts or reactions
These patterns make sense in context they developed for a reason. Therapy is a space to understand them more clearly and begin responding differently, without needing to force change.
How I Approach Therapy
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
We look at the different “parts” of you, like the part that overthinks, the part that avoids, or the part that feels responsible for everything. Instead of trying to get rid of these parts, we work to understand their role and help them shift into something less overwhelming.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
This helps identify patterns in thoughts and behaviors that keep you stuck. We use it to bring more clarity to how certain reactions are reinforced and how to respond in more grounded ways.
Somatic (Body-Based) Work
Many of these patterns aren’t just cognitive. They show up physically as tension, shutdown, or reactivity. Somatic work helps you become more aware of these responses and gradually build a greater sense of internal stability.
What Therapy With Me Is Like
Therapy with me is collaborative, direct when needed, and paced in a way that doesn’t feel overwhelming.
I won’t push you faster than you’re ready to go, but I also won’t stay on the surface if something deeper is getting in the way. The focus is on helping you build a clearer understanding of yourself, reduce the pressure you’re carrying, and feel more steady in how you navigate your life and relationships.
A Final Note
You don’t need to have everything figured out before starting therapy. If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of how to move forward, that’s enough to begin.
We can figure the rest out together.